Sunday, December 12, 2004

old white guys and young Asian women

The very thought of it creeps me out.

When I was an innocent undergraduate, living at home and therefore lacking in that famous student-style social life, I used to see this guy hanging around the library. He must've been about fifty, all white-haired and crinkly-skinned, though he assured me he was a bona fide student. I was a lonely wee soul in those days, so I chatted to him whenever I saw him. He never asked me out, thank gawd, but later on I found out that he made a habit of selectively chatting to the younger female Asian students. Years later, when I was working, I found out from a Chinese guy friend that his younger sister actually lived with that old guy for a while.

And now it seems I have an old-white-guy stalker. I take my mum to the open-air produce market every Sunday morning, and I keep seeing this one guy looking at me. I spoke to him once - he started a conversation and my customer service habit made it impossible for me not to reply - and ever since then, I'd spot him noticing me. He'd wind his way around the fruit and vege crates to get to where I was standing, while I'd pretend not to see him as I wandered in the opposite direction.

It just reminds me of that time I was in Thailand, when I was walking behind a tall, middle-aged white guy holding hands with a very young-looking Thai girl (us Asians look young for our age, I know - but even so, she can't have been more than twelve).
I hoped like crazy that he was just a friend of her parents', taking her out for a platonic ice-cream...

6 comments:

Jon said...

The same is true in the gay scene. The vast majority of guys who hit on me at bars are old white guys, aka rice queens. And yes, it is 99% of the time really gross. I'm about to turn 26- do I really want to blow a 57 year old who looks my dad ( I'm adopted and my dad is white, just so ya know )????? ewwwww

Nigel Patel said...

I'm sort of at the other end of this. I have been known to be attracted to African American women from ten to twenty years older than me. The problem here is that as I'm in my thirties, Mrs. Robinson is now going through "The Change".

Violet said...

Jon: I'm pretty sure the sex industry in Thailand caters for those of the gay persuasion too, as well as lady-boys for the ones who can't decide...

Nigel: African American women do seem to keep their looks for longer, so I can understand your attraction. Being menopausal might indeed be an obstacle though - how would you handle it?

Nigel Patel said...

I'm more worried about being a step-dad, or worse yet, a step-granddad. I'm just not prepared.
If I had some of my own, I could gradually get all the steps down.

Violet said...

And there's always the potential to get all "Woody Allen" too.

:: jozjozjoz :: said...

Having an old guy stalker (white or not) is creepy by any account.

Good luck shaking him off!