I saw the Editter today at the supermarket. See, last time I had heard from her, she was happily preggers. So when I saw her coming my way, I craned my neck to peer at her tummy and jokingly told her she still just looks fat.
Now, if I'd left the house just an hour later than I actually did, I would have been home to answer the phone when she rang to tell me that she'd miscarried last night.
My embarrassment at having made such a faux pas was overshadowed by my sorrow at the news.
I'd been looking forward to telling her of all the trials and tribulations she could anticipate as a pregant woman. I'd been mentally going through Baby's newborn clothing and picking out the outfits she might like to borrow for her little one. I was going to recommend pregnancy and parenting books. And now I can't.
7 comments:
Hold onto those baby clothes and horror stories - hopefully she'll need them soon...
I once got a comment like that from someone who knew my mum, but didn't know she had died (6 weeks before the Oldest was born), and cooed over the baby saying, "Ooh, your Mum must be so proud!". I felt awful having to break the news to the poor woman.
Hold on to them anyway, Violet - the baby's coming soon.
flying kiwi: I'm hoping it's a girl; a boy baby might not look so good in those little denim frocks...
juliabohemian: how weird, to tell people you're pregnant if you're going to terminate.
wicked: I bet she felt terrible. It can't be helped, eh?
Poor woman
She seems to be handling it really well actually, boudica. She's being quite philosphical about it.
I'm sorry to hear that, but you didn't know at the time. I know you'll be a good friend, that's what counts.
boudica: perhaps in a cultural thing? Apparently in China, abortion is just another form of birth control, and the rise in abortions in NZ is at least partly attributed to the rise in numbers of young Chinese women coming to NZ to study...
jon: yeah, I've already loaned her a book which she wouldn't read when she was expecting - the Kevin book.
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