Tuesday, August 19, 2008

She-who-hates-me

There's this woman I work with - actually, with whom I'm job-sharing in my current work assignment - and I'm pretty sure she's got it in for me. I don't know why exactly, though it probably didn't help that I unintentionally stood her up twice (the first time was at our first meeting). Or it might be because I'm so pretty and she's so homely, but I rather think it's the former.

And how do I know? Well, she never smiles at me or says hi to me unless I've said hi to her first. Also, we share a desk and computer, and if she gets to work before I do (which is always), she hogs them both and acts like she is entitled to.

Perhaps I should stand up for myself more, but 1) she's a bit of a star and terribly experienced, whereas I'm a relative greenie who can't always work out how to turn on a mobile phone, and 2) I just want to be liked - it's in my nature and it'd probably take something life-threatening (or reputation-destroying) to get me out of my doormat act.

The boys says I should just laugh every time we cross paths, but I reckon that would just make things much, much worse. Besides, she's bigger than me.

Maybe I should go all Pollyanna on her and bake her some muffins. (Yeah, and put an ecstasy tablet in it).

8 comments:

Cathi said...

Hmmm. Some thoughts spring to mind

Why, if you're jobsharing, are you there at the same time?

How about saying "How do you suggest we share the desk and computer?"

She'd probably like you better if you weren't a doormat. But I don't believe you're a doormat anyway. Perhaps a "peace prioritiser" is a better phrase :) She'd probably like you better if you didn't prioritise peace though.

donnasoowho said...

I don't have any advice for you. If I don't get on with some one in a work situation I just avoid them like a coward until they go away (which presumably will be at some point soon for you??).

onscreen said...

Hey Violet

Totally off topic, but did you leave a comment on FG's X-Files review? If that was you then you might want to check your Gmail junk folder. If it wasn't, then just delete and ignore this random comment...

Violet said...

cathi: yeah, or conflict-avoider! It's hard to share when she gets in well before I do and therefore gets first dibs on the workstation. And it makes more sense for me to find another place to work, than to kick her off the one she's already got all her applications up on...

And yes, we are there at the same time 2 days per week. Only 2, thank the gods!

donnasoowho: We're both there for the next 4 months - though anything could happen I suppose.

onscreen: I can't remember whether i did or not, so I'll just check my gmail anyway.

Nigel Patel said...

Have you considered VooDoo?

BTodger said...

Just mention at the coffee machine that when you sit at a certain desk there is always a funny smell.

Then wait 2 days for the rumor to circulate...

Violet said...

nigel: no I haven't - but one of the NZ universities is running a paper on magic and curses, so maybe I should learn how!

btodger: I can see that you have no problem with not being liked..

ella said...

PMSL at the idea of the ecstasy tablet!

Otherwise I've no advice - I'm a conflict-avoider so I'm not much help in this situation. (Voodoo sounds good.)