tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6085694.post113394031844007742..comments2023-11-02T21:46:26.482+13:00Comments on Violet goes green, sort of: Book report from PBA (Parenting Books Anonymous)Violethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10547452802344363142noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6085694.post-1134593463851064662005-12-15T09:51:00.000+13:002005-12-15T09:51:00.000+13:00kathyt: this has turned out to be quite a contenti...kathyt: this has turned out to be quite a contentious topic hasn't it? I'll check out that link. Thanks.Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10547452802344363142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6085694.post-1134513853884715132005-12-14T11:44:00.000+13:002005-12-14T11:44:00.000+13:00Skirt: that's quite interesting; thanks for the li...Skirt: that's quite interesting; thanks for the link. Kitzinger comes across as more of an attachment parenting sort of person. I know her pregnancy books were a little off-putting because of the full-frontal childbirth photos in unexpected places.Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10547452802344363142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6085694.post-1134506022041141632005-12-14T09:33:00.000+13:002005-12-14T09:33:00.000+13:00Ohhh, seen this article? http://www.nzherald.co.nz...Ohhh, seen this article? http://www.nzherald.co.nz/section/story.cfm?c_id=2&ObjectID=10359807The Skirthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10855985083696716271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6085694.post-1134283919381183062005-12-11T19:51:00.000+13:002005-12-11T19:51:00.000+13:00tulip girl: I'm not by any means defending Ezzo's ...tulip girl: I'm not by any means defending Ezzo's book over all those other books (e.g. Baby Whisperer or Gina Ford). I just thought they all seemed remarkably similar, yet Ezzo was getting more flak than the others. And you have to admit that all of these regimes have worked really well for lots of people.Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10547452802344363142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6085694.post-1134253974420538352005-12-11T11:32:00.000+13:002005-12-11T11:32:00.000+13:00tulip girl: I didn't realise there was so much org...tulip girl: I didn't realise there was so much organised anti-Ezzo information. I suppose for every popular childcare philosophy there are at least as many detractors as supporters.Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10547452802344363142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6085694.post-1134098468072464302005-12-09T16:21:00.000+13:002005-12-09T16:21:00.000+13:00Tulipgirl: thanks, just what a PBA member needs - ...Tulipgirl: thanks, just what a PBA member needs - online parenting information !Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10547452802344363142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6085694.post-1133993977495037432005-12-08T11:19:00.000+13:002005-12-08T11:19:00.000+13:00mtnw: I must've missed the part in Ezzo's book abo...mtnw: I must've missed the part in Ezzo's book about smacking. Frankly I have no problem with smacking as long as it's appropriate to the age and behaviour i.e. it's bad form to use electrical cords, four-by-twos and steep-capped boots ;-)<BR/><BR/>I like the 3- and 4- hourly routine; it's just too bad Baby doesn't.<BR/><BR/>rainypete: same thing happened with my breastfeeding book. So much was devoted to what could go wrong, that I was almost disappointed when it mostly went well.Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10547452802344363142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6085694.post-1133976184299606452005-12-08T06:23:00.000+13:002005-12-08T06:23:00.000+13:00Ive always got a kick out of the "What To Expect.....Ive always got a kick out of the "What To Expect..." books. A truly fantastic book who's sole function seems to be to provide parents with so much information that every little thing looks like a terminal disease, and a trip to the hospital.<BR/>"No I'm telling you doctor!! I checked the book and I think she's got leprosy!"<BR/>"It's diaper rash sir, use this cream and quite coming here please."Rainypetehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01415282957997196121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6085694.post-1133948578834302292005-12-07T22:42:00.000+13:002005-12-07T22:42:00.000+13:00I'm sorry if this is enabling you in your addictio...I'm sorry if this is enabling you in your addiction but... since I'm a PBA myself I can't help but jump in...<BR/><BR/>Ezzo gets slammed not just because of the highly emotive "its child abuse to leave a baby to cry under any circumstances" school of parenting but also because (I believe) he advocates smacking. I might be wrong but I think at some point he mentions lightly swatting a 6 month baby for foolish behaviour at the table which is pretty unpleasant, if true, IMO.<BR/><BR/>I have seen Tracy Hogg slammed on the internet for her routines, believe it or not - by the same kind of overzealous judgemental mothers who think everyone who doesn't co-sleep and breast feed on demand till the child leaves home is a heartless, terrible parent- even though, from what I remember of the book, it was all very gentle and about finding the right balance for baby and mother. She also gets slammed a lot because she left her own daughters with her mother and grandmother in England to become a celebrity nanny in Los Angeles.<BR/><BR/>The 3-4 hourly routine thing predates her. Spock advocated it and I believe it used to be common practice in maternity hospitals at various times at least over the past 50 years or so (and possibly even before) which was quite rigidly enforced and which we are now (still) experiencing a backlash against.<BR/><BR/>But according to a book of domestic history I read awhile back there are at any given time usually two schools of parenting theory. One very permissive and the other pretty rigid and routine based. In reality most parents pick and mix between the two and find their own way somewhere in the middle.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04797661728002935006noreply@blogger.com